Hi Katherine,
Learning by doing is great, learning by reading books is great, learning any way you can is great. But there is a common expression about "knowing just enough to be dangerous". One may have a 1000 page manual about their car and may learn a lot about cars by taking one apart but after you put it back together and it doesn't work then you're stuck. You could find an auto mechanic forum and ask questions but its rather expecting a lot if you think the mechanic reading the forum can magically guess what you did wrong putting it back together. The mechanic might be quite capable of fixing it if he could directly work on the car, he may need to take it apart and put it back together himself to fix it. But it is not reasonable to think he will be able to do it over the forums. Some problems which one can easily help with in person with direct access to the car or in this case the IIS server are very difficult to do remotely based on question and answer. My point is not that it is wrong to ask such questions but don't be surprised if the mechanic cannot help you with your questions. In all realms of learning one can learn just as much from failure as success so it is ok to learn by trial and error, but learning such a way is not painless, it can and will be very frustrating at times.
The internet is full of resources to help you learn, you could take classes, and there are lots of forums where you can ask questions but you may not always get answers. I already posted quite a few links on this thread to help you learn the needed background information, there are also the
IIS forums, there is a great series of
IIS training videos being posted each week on Scott Forsyths blog, he is posting 1 per week and is on week 16 of 52, though I don't know how much they will help with only the audio, there is always google and bing to help you research questions.
Best,
Joe